How to be Attractive in 9 Easy Steps

The word attractive will, first of all, depend on how you define things as attractive. If being fit and well- dressed is your example of attractive, then it is probably what it is. Hence, it is relative. 

Err, attractive doesn't always mean erotic. But it's something that we do to appeal not only to the other people but to ourselves as well. 

Below are simple and easy steps, which I sourced out from an infographic, on how to be attractive:

1. Smile

2. Smell nice or don't smell at all

3. Dress for style and respect, not attention

4. Know what's going on in the world and have an opinion about it

5. Speak kindly of yourself and those around you

6. Have three hobbies that do not involve a screen

7. Get an education or save up for one

8. Make time for children, elderly, and those who need a friend

9. Always say thank you and return favors

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Why Saying Sorry Won’t Help You Get Your Girlfriend Back

It’s easy to say “I’m sorry” , but meaning it is another story. This is practically a comeback post on anything relationships.

"I still love you today the way I loved you yesterday"

While sorry is one of the hardest words to tell, recognizing that you have wronged the other person matters just as much. Whatever reasons you have in ending a relationship, it is always never easy to claim that you both are readily amenable to move on. 

The seemingly touch of freedom after the breakup might only be temporary. At the end of the day you know that there is still a deep trouble that slinks underneath yourself.

Emotional Tank

Books, people, or even your inner voice can tell you, that to make a sincere apology you have to get through the other person and tell her how much you accept that you committed a mistake. To convey to her that you are very sorry and that you regret the day you had ever hurt her. To which it is relatively polite and proper.

But being apologetic is rather an understatement. There is more to asking for forgiveness than expressing it whichever ways. Make more sense about why you are saying your apologies.

Perhaps you are saying sorry because you could no longer put up with stigma other people have attached on you. Saying sorry is not even about the guilt. Or maybe, you are only trying to atone past issues because  you are catching a bad situation and you think that your unresolved issue with your ex is the main  reason you make lame with your progress in life.

You are the one holding yourself. You cannot always blame the other person for all the bad happenings in your life. You are your own master. You were capable of ending a relationship in the first place.

It must've not happened

If you can’t muster up the courage to master your thoughts and understand your emotions, you will mostly end up thinking that you are sorry for your mistakes when in fact you are only looking for means to console yourself. And apologizing is but a superficial way to do that.

You have to learn how to fill up your emotional tank without depending on others. Otherwise it will still send the idea that you are not really trying to make up for the offenses you’ve done.

Be honest. Man up. You don't apologize simply because your present emotion tells you so.

Take Responsibility

It’s a big discouragement to let other people do the apologizing for you. It’s self-explanatory.

No matter how difficult you think the going gets, you have to stand up for your own actions and initiate apologies yourself. And by “yourself” I mean finding time to express remorse personally. You are making amends to a human being and not to a virtual board.

Apologize for the other person’s feelings and not for your own behavior. Because if apologizing to you means justifying what you did, you are only trying to win yourself and not your girlfriend (and her respect) back. 

You are not only responsible for your own actions but for the consequences as well.




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3 (Short) Ways to Help Master Your Thoughts

There's one line in the novel turned movie, Eat, Pray, Love that clobbered me when I've heard it speak into my mind, "If you can't master your thoughts you will always be in trouble". It's as if I had no idea that line existed for years in books and in the persuasive mouth of famous speakers and Psychologists.

I believe most if not all of us are radically aware of this principle in life. But by the time we move out of our comfort zone and expand our relationships, stress beleaguers like compulsory.

However, it's not solely material thing or work strain that's responsible for our mental burn out but largely because of people. We relate to others even more than we do over our bed sheets. Thus, there are far more chances that our power over our thoughts gets shaken by the impact of these people in us. 

1. Personal Commercial

Have you ever heard of that before? Listening to motivational speech is by far one of the best ways to build and rebuild our self-assurance. It's seldom however that we get the chance or sometimes even the interest to spare a time for these speeches until we find them badly necessary. 

If the situation really calls for it and you need something to help you rise up from mental and self-esteem troubles, you can listen as fast to such a motivational speech by creating a personal commercial. You may formulate in your mind or write 3-5 lines that tell your strengths and goals. Recite them in front of a mirror or plainly narrate them into your mind like an introvert junior high would Winston Churchill. Or as the monk would Madonna, had it been the way to practice her vocation.

    2.   Your part...

Instead of thinking what the world can do for you, think of what you can do for the world. Taking your part in doing what can benefit the world will add up to your self-belief tank. No matter what you do, no matter where you go, if you won't realize that everything else is merely a response or reflex of what you make your mind believe, everybody you meet will just always become a nightmare. 

    3.  Manual

When a gadget say a tab or a DSLR gets defective, there's no better way or person to approach for some fixing than the one who made it. Or we review the manual. If we get caught up in a bad situation in life and we start to get defective with how we handle it, there's also no better way to approach for some fixing than the one who made us, God. And the bible is our manual. 

Did I sound like a Friday night reveler that dances to almost the same mix of music by saying that line? Maybe. But I am just reminding you that our thoughts can become our worst assassin if we would always think we know better in life than the one who made us. 

If you accept God as your creator and savior then His words will you hit you hard than a knife but will lift you up higher than a crane. 

Don't wait until you hop from one job to another, or move from a place or two. There's no way these external factors can help you. 

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Junks God Makes

I came across this video while browsing on my Facebook news feed. It broke my heart. I realized how God molded everything exactly as he sees it suitable.

Watch it. Let it break and change you too.

Junks God makes are not actually junks!

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Why is Being Feminine Better than Being Sexy

                

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Someone who wears dress, speaks rightly so, and is able to give birth to a child-- a feminine that is. No need to be in tightly-fitted corset as how history describes it to be. What is considered “feminine” however varies from one culture to another (i.e. someone who gets married and submits to her husband is feminine to most Christian cultures while someone who is able to do tough labors is feminine to other tribes). 

But being feminine in general is something that exemplifies someone’s character as a woman.

There are women who capture a lot of people for their charm and personality; others though ensnare people like magnetizing music without even actually trying. They are the beautiful faces that most men find attractive to their almost delusive and futile desires. 

While there’s nothing wrong with how women fit themselves to shape good (Read: to be sexy), femininity is an influence that lasts longer and boosts better. And we’re not talking of plain aggrandizement. We’re talking of how femininity works at a higher advantage than simply pleasing.

Perhaps this goes to explaining that as women, we customarily associate ourselves into female preferences like learning how to bake, talking about the melodrama over cars that need tune-ups, and even desiring for a sexy body, sexy make-up, sexy hairstyle, and sexy outfit with gusto. But how will femininity give us pro?

Be aware that to be feminine is largely a matter of having good looks and good grooming. I don't mean that you need to look like Angelina Jolie; just start with the “physical level”. Gauge your wardrobe.

You absolutely have been looking for magazines or look books that would tell you precisely how to pull an outfit together-- with all the right accessories, shoes, and color combinations. Some if not all might have probably disappointed you with examples that are only suitable for fashion walk throughs. And I don’t want to put the same things forward. I want to share with you the best ideas. So ready your mind-and-heart-checklist.

Learn to Love Your (Naked) Self

How many times have you thought about being naked? Or so, have you ever thought about your own nakedness-- unclad, bare-skinned, and transparent? And when you have, what did you see and how did you feel about it?

                This entry has been inspired by Amy Bloom in her article from Oprah.com. Glory is to God for his never-ending inspiration through other people’s writings.

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It’s not so often that we think of ourselves stripped off from our shoulder straps and our plaid printed pajamas heading to our bathrooms, washing up, and stepping out with our body half-ly covered with towel. People barely talk about nakedness in its literal sense and within the limits of it. Frequently, the scenes that follow in their minds are the ones that become daily challenge to men and women alike.  But that’s a separate point in question.

Amy Bloom said she went from pajamas to underwear to clothes every morning and back the other way every night. And no one had said anything to her about what a good time was to be had between pajamas and underwear. I thought with her experience that many of us, people in our subliminal sense still pass around the pleasant feeling of being at peace with our own brand of nakedness. Most of the time what we see in the mirror turns out to be unfavorable. It’s hardly ever that we come close to the mirror and see ourselves naked and smiling at the same time. Some  of us would only notice the cellulites that crowd in our hind end or the freckles and pimples that lay proudly across our face. 

Fit yourself around the confident few. If you’re not assured with how you look, it will obviously show. God for certain didn’t make a mistake in molding you into how you naturally look today. He’s the best of the best creators more than the famous sculptors and painters. He has the most perfect description of a human body. He made you exactly how you look. But he sure didn’t make you exactly how you feel with how you look. See the difference? And maybe what I’m trying to say is, it can be all about attitude.

Feeling unhappy about the way you look might have started since you were young.

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