It’s easy to say “I’m sorry” , but meaning it is
another story. This is practically a comeback post on anything relationships.
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| "I still love you today the way I loved you yesterday" |
While sorry is one of the hardest words to tell, recognizing
that you have wronged the other person matters just as much. Whatever
reasons you have in ending a relationship, it is always never easy to claim that
you both are readily amenable to move on.
The seemingly touch of freedom after the breakup might only be temporary. At the end of the day you know that there is still a deep trouble that slinks underneath yourself.
The seemingly touch of freedom after the breakup might only be temporary. At the end of the day you know that there is still a deep trouble that slinks underneath yourself.
Emotional Tank
Books, people, or even your inner voice can tell you, that to make a sincere apology you have to get through the other
person and tell her how much you accept that you committed a mistake. To
convey to her that you are very sorry and that you regret the day you had ever
hurt her. To which it is relatively polite and proper.
But being apologetic is rather an understatement.
There is more to asking for forgiveness than expressing it whichever ways. Make more sense about why you are saying your apologies.
Perhaps you are saying sorry because you could no
longer put up with stigma other people have attached on you. Saying sorry is not even
about the guilt. Or maybe, you are only trying to atone past issues because you are catching a bad situation and
you think that your unresolved issue with your ex is the main reason you make lame with your progress in life.
You are the one holding yourself. You cannot always
blame the other person for all the bad happenings in your life. You are your own master. You were capable of ending a relationship in
the first place.
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| It must've not happened |
If you can’t muster up the courage to master your
thoughts and understand your emotions, you will mostly end up thinking that you
are sorry for your mistakes when in fact you are only looking for means to
console yourself. And apologizing is but a superficial way to do that.
You have to learn how to fill up your emotional tank
without depending on others. Otherwise it will still send the idea that you are
not really trying to make up for the offenses you’ve done.
Be honest. Man up. You don't apologize simply because your present emotion tells you so.
Take
Responsibility
It’s a big discouragement to let other
people do the apologizing for you. It’s self-explanatory.
No matter how difficult you think the
going gets, you have to stand up for your own actions and initiate apologies
yourself. And by “yourself” I mean finding time to express remorse personally.
You are making amends to a human being and not to a virtual board.
Apologize for the other person’s
feelings and not for your own behavior. Because if apologizing to you means justifying what you did, you are only trying to win yourself
and not your girlfriend (and her respect) back.
You are not only responsible for your own actions but for the consequences as well.
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