How to Make a Man Court You

“How do we urge it?” asked several single women as I wind up counseling back in college. That was one of the most frequently asked questions I have encountered.

I have become more aware now of the reality that women are still fervent in praying for the right man (whom they really want) to court them as soon.

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When love begins to fill the air, we start to wish that the person we want would finally set out to pursue us. But all this wishful thinking can also be very tricky. We never know if what we ask would do us more good than bad, more happiness than hurt.

There are women who bend over backwards and go an extra mile to get the man they want. They try almost everything they can to get him more interested-- wrote him love letters, called him first for a date, cooked for him, compromised other things to make time for him, or the more, dressed provocatively to entice him. And most if not all only come to realize that it just drove the man farther. It's no joke for us women to mortify ourselves just to get the man courting us.

How to Court a "Lady" the Filipino Way

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Let me tell you frankly, this entry is about the "Traditional Filipino Courting". But nah! I promise you this is only one fourth serious and conventional and three fourth fun and straightforward.

I have found here a video by I'm-not-sure-if-you're-familiar, Mikey Bustos that speaks about courtship and which on this regard is the most probably better way, would you do it.

Video from Mikey Bustos Videos via youtube.com

Funny but it let slip who we are. Right pinoys?

               "So rapid like lightning, noh ba!" ~ Mikey Bustos

Photo/ Video Credits:
weheartit.com
Mikey Bustos Videos, youtube.com

Who should chase in love: Man or Woman?

Love chase; one to run after the other. Who is really to do it, the man or the woman?

Chase the love you want l Image taken from wehearit.com

I asked different men and women from distinct walks of life-- married, in a relationship, or otherwise. I, at some sort, find most of their answers similar. 

While this topic is a bore to many online readers, there is still a large fraction of people out there (net or the real world) who search for concrete opinions on this matter, which means that this topic is still an issue of interest to a whole slew of curious minds (and hearts). That’s why I decided to write this entry. 

I opted to solicit others’ standpoint by asking some friends of the same age and older, joining forums on different other websites, and conceded reading some references in the hope of giving this entry a fair concept.  I am not posting those people’s answers here for confidential reasons but everything that I will put across in this entry serves as the inference of all the ideas I got from my searching.

Let me get it clearer that by chase I mean the one who should be following, calling the shots in dating, and making the first move. And by first move I mean the very first to come close and “seek the hand of the other”. The issue as to whoever has to say sorry first during misunderstandings or a lovers’ quarrel, or anything within the walls of a relationship is beside to the point. This is more of the issues prior to relationship-- the courting stage.

Let it be the Man…

                       

• ·       What the Bible says 

Long ago in genesis time, man was already created to lead, to initiate, "But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God”, 1 Corinthians 11:3. Whoa! Before you fire up and proceed to the “road rage” I would like to emphasize that the verse is not written here to battle with gender equalities. Many scripture passages describe how the Lord authorized the headship of a man over a woman (e.g. Genesis 2:18, Ephesians 5:22-23). Although this doesn’t necessarily mean that women cannot become leaders. Get yourself into the context that even from the Bible, the Lord has ordained men as the ones who start things in their families and communities.

• ·      Let’s talk about his Nature 

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Have you noticed all the men around you-- fathers, brothers, uncles, neighbors? Ever wonder why a guy friend of yours instantly grabbed a bottle of coke and opened it knowing that there is only one man (him) in a dine of  three girls? Tell him it’s ok to break off at four bottles of beer and he would say he can keep up to six bottles of it. Suggest to your husband to turn left and he would say the right lane is shorter. That’s how a man’s brain operates. Of course these incidents don’t always happen all the same but these are concrete examples of men’s nature to follow their impulse and be the first to set things in motion; besides mentioning how the society requires them to be. 

I remember speaking in one of my previous posts that men love the thrill of the chase. And they do. They too love challenges, the reason why they don’t raise the white flag without giving a boxing or a football game a fair try. You’ll find them more excited and satisfied in telling the story of how they were able to catch a fish than have someone else to catch it for them. It starts up their engine when it's taking them a little difficult and long to bait the hook, throw it to the sea, wait for the prey, and pull the rod out the water with an exceptional catch-- greatly fulfilling! So to speak, the harder a woman is to get, the more that a man wants to conquer her.