How to Make a Man Court You

“How do we urge it?” asked several single women as I wind up counseling back in college. That was one of the most frequently asked questions I have encountered.

I have become more aware now of the reality that women are still fervent in praying for the right man (whom they really want) to court them as soon.

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When love begins to fill the air, we start to wish that the person we want would finally set out to pursue us. But all this wishful thinking can also be very tricky. We never know if what we ask would do us more good than bad, more happiness than hurt.

There are women who bend over backwards and go an extra mile to get the man they want. They try almost everything they can to get him more interested-- wrote him love letters, called him first for a date, cooked for him, compromised other things to make time for him, or the more, dressed provocatively to entice him. And most if not all only come to realize that it just drove the man farther. It's no joke for us women to mortify ourselves just to get the man courting us.

It has always been confusing don’t you wonder? Men have played it too shrewd oftentimes we don’t understand what they really want and how they want it. Because when a woman initiates, the man walks away. Or when a woman appears cold and hard to get, the man does not chase in return. How do we really encourage it?

Since the time I entertained its idea that already clustered dominantly in every woman’s life, the more that I also came to understand what John Starke, a writer/editor once said; that in order to get what we want in a man, we have to wait until the leadership comes and then respond. I didn’t fully understand that sentence before. But I find it helpful to this date.

We have to wait until the man we want has finally fathomed  that he is the man who is responsible to lead.

In every relationship, we almost never put up with the concept that men need some ripening and maturity to do until they realize they are ready for the roles and responsibilities attached with entering into a relationship. 

Again and again, we only think that if we love the man and the man loves us back, it’s all over. Well not if you really want to keep a good relationship. Don’t you think maybe it’s also one of the reasons why the man who likes you very much suddenly stopped the chase because he realized he wasn’t at all ready?

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If we want a real mature man to take care and be with us in a relationship, we have to allow him the time to generate maturity until he is ready to lead the relationship and eventually make him worth submitting our leadership into. Because when a man can’t lead a relationship, you will essentially see its effects in how things will go and how it will soon end. I also think that deserves another entry. For now, that is all I have for you.

Don’t just settle for an accidental happily ever after. Wait for the man who leads.

God bless your hearts!







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