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I want to talk to the men this time. When you deal with the woman of your life, how do you make her feel?
When that woman walks up to you and sob without trying to speak a single word, how do you usually respond?
When your relationship has taken you both into years of familiar togetherness, how do you cater to her wants and needs?
When a woman communicates a problem to someone, she is generally looking for empathy. When a man communicates a problem to someone, he is generally looking for an answer, said John Gray in his book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”.
For a relationship to never lose its spice and let the affluence continue, it is said that both the man and woman need to extend an extra effort to do new adventures and new things to look forward to. True!
But sometimes, when over familiarity breeds contempt and being together starts to become a bore, either the guy or the girl begins to take things for granted. Sadly, it happens unconsciously most of the time. When it does, and no one in the relationship initiates to come to the rescue, both start to feel unappreciated hence unhappy.
But sometimes, when over familiarity breeds contempt and being together starts to become a bore, either the guy or the girl begins to take things for granted. Sadly, it happens unconsciously most of the time. When it does, and no one in the relationship initiates to come to the rescue, both start to feel unappreciated hence unhappy.
Time and again people blame discoveries of new adventures and the lack of it for every failing relationship. But one of the main reasons why relationships turn bad is when one or both forgets to conserve the inner adventures that a human person keeps on looking for in life. Little appreciations are left unsaid and simple gestures turn unnoticed. I do not mean to stereotype but most of you (men) bump into this customary struggle. Don't you?
“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” – Proverbs 14:1
A woman whose worth is not valued and whose goodness automatically claimed her a free ticket to faulty treatments, lose her charm and enthusiasm. I’m not so sure if you guys would want to see a partner who cannot get an amount of improvement only because you have already made her feel too inadequate about herself.
Deeds and recurrent affirmations of your love to your woman are still few of the very important means to untangle that emotional rummage.
- Spend time with her and make sure she really has your attention.
- Little gestures mean big time-- show little acts of love (greeting her good morning or hugging her good night).
- Be self-effacing and complimentary-- saying “sorry” without being defensive, and “thank you” without being too proud.
- Communicate well-- LISTEN!!!
- Man up!-- be the partner who helps get the relationship going and show that you can be worth submitting her leadership into.
- Think about…why she is ever jealous-- do you even give her enough reasons not to be?
- Cherish her as Jesus loved the church.
Few treasured inner feelings can endure a bundle tolls than a thousand faking outward impressions. Because to tell you, when a man treats well a woman, she becomes the most beautiful woman she could ever be and makes for the happiest life she could ever give.
It’s true what Audrey Hepburn said, “Happiest girls are the prettiest”.
Smiles :)
Postscript: Here's a song originally by one of my favorite singers/songwriters, Gabe Bondoc. Thank God for his amazing talent in scribbling into music how every woman deserves a whole amount of good treatment....and love! This I want to share with you. Be blessed!
Video by Gabe Bondoc from the album The Summertime LP
Image/ Video Credits:
Gabe Bondoc The Summertime LP, youtube.com
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