Handling Relationships and What-not’s

Experience is not the best teacher, character is.

Some say people who have had experience in past relationships are able to handle their next relationships better. I may not agree all the time.

Heartbreak Warfare

It’s true that all people who come and go past our lives leave a significant lesson we can learn huge from.

Romantically involved relationships in particular give us a portal to brand new perspectives to which we can build wisdom to and apply in our future day-to-day relationship encounters.

But moving on from past relationships does not always mean learning the lessons we have gotten from the experience. We cannot alone move forward and become the better person we claim ourselves we are, if we only recognize that we are hurt and still fail to find solutions and make good judgment out of it.

Multiple Relationships

           

The more that you’re able to go through similar relationship demurs, the more that you are able to develop better strategies in handling them. But again, that is if you not only recognize the problem but come up with solutions on how you could improve yourself.

You don’t have to engage yourself into a roomful of changing relationships with multiple men or women to get to tell yourself that you have finally learned the lesson. If you think you can draw several lessons from even one painful experience, you’re giving yourself a big favor.

Remember that you cannot try to solve a problem, and expect different results, using exactly the same methods. You cannot improve your relationships (no matter how many), and expect to get better every time, using the same old attitude and character.

Experience is a great teacher, but definitely not the best one. Try to put some character to your experiences and you will see yourself truly developing into a better person you hope to become.

It’s not all about the fun

I don’t mean to sound like a naysayer nor do I mean to play Ms. Perfect; but you don't enter into a relationship only because of the pleasure and fun you can get out of it. Relationships are results of good friendship and genuine commitment, geared for the real final goal-- marriage.

If you think buying that idea would mean losing the freedom to dote on the company and emotional affairs of other men or women and missing excitement of getting in and out of several relationships, then maybe, you’re not yet truly ready for a real boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. You’re only ready for plain mutual understandings.

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