Anyone among you guys know Landon Carter? In case you have forgotten, he played-actor of a fictional character springing forth “true love” down the little port town of Beaufort, North Carolina. He is the Landon Carter of Nicholas Spark’s bestselling novel turned top
rated movie, A Walk to Remember.
He was someone who would fall unlikely to serious conservative women playing less cool as anyone could get. He had no ambitions and no plans for the future. Who you think would also likely fall for his kind of man? Jamie Sullivan did in a story which anyone would most probably hope for. You might get yourself the book and the movie to find out the reason why.
The rules tell us (true love hopefuls) the stipulations and schemes in finding the right man (or woman), the goal of which is real love. But finding the right person, to be more specific in this post, the right man does not necessarily demand false praises and infatuation-based decisions as type of predation.
Inasmuch as men particularly look for women with balanced character and a considerate amount of mental & physical attractiveness, “wise” women as well strongly ask for a man with certain qualities. And speaking of qualities, we talk of matrimony as a common denominator in every pursuit of a relationship.
In a book compiled by J. Maurus, it said that when you look forward to a bright future in matrimony, model yourself after the pattern of this wise girl and you will be the gainer.
She looks for the man:
Who does not become crazy over her at first sight.
Becoming crazy at first sight would flag a man’s inability to contain and be responsible for his own emotions and as a resort give in too easily to the emotional traps and impulses of physical attraction. This physical attraction will more likely not be limited to one woman only.
Who does not ask her to “go along”.
Asking a woman to “go along” with his own standards would mean that he does not give equal importance to what matters to the woman.
Who does not agree too easily to all she says.
Agreeing isn’t bad. But disagreeing at times and asserting own opinions signify that a man has independent way of thinking and cannot simply be convinced. Thus, capable of leading.
Who speaks respectfully about his parents.
The way a man deal with his parents would in all likelihood be the way he would treat his partner in the future.
Who presents her to his parents and relatives.
Who does not expect payment in return for dates.
This and the previous statement are I think understandable.
Who does not dream about her too often.
Dreaming frequently about a person often idealize than realize.
Who would not “die” for her.
To “die” means to surrender all of a man’s ability to lead and improve, and instead depend on how he could inflate his needs from the emotional bank of his partner.
Who considers religious matters as important as his girl.
Putting God before everything would mean that a man’s life is complete without needing for someone to complete it for him, yet he chooses the woman in order to have someone to share his abounding love with.
Who respects her religious beliefs and her standards of life.
Love is wanting the best for the other person and not basically changing the other person to conform into how he imagined and hoped her to be.
Who will make an exemplary father for her children.
Such a young man is very pleasing to a wise woman. A man like that does not fall for a coat of many colors and his courtship is pure and sincere.
Then maybe, I speak for the same opinion. At least for my interpretations that is how I describe my ideal man. And I choose to call him Landon Carter.
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Best of a Lady compiled by J. Maurus
