How Porn Affects the Male Brain

Pornography is KING. To men and women of different ages, it is.

It is evident in television advertisements, websites, and even in John Mayer's interview with Playboy Magazine in 2010. 

Pornography? It’s a new synaptic pathway. You wake up in the morning, open a thumbnail page, and it leads to a Pandora’s Box of visuals. There have probably been days when I saw 300 [women] before I got out of bed….Internet pornography has absolutely changed my generation’s expectations.…You’re looking for the one photo out of 100 you swear is going to be the one you finish to, and you still don’t finish. Twenty seconds ago you thought that photo was the hottest thing you ever saw, but you throw it back…How does that not affect the psychology of having a relationship with somebody? It’s got to.¹

At age 3 you can already see a pre-schooler adeptly maneuver a psp or a tab. At 8 he starts using social media to express his thoughts and build his own circle of game buddies. At 12 he knows FHM and Playboy very well. At 17 he's junked-up with the woman he saw on one of the porn sites. It's computer addiction at first, then an ensuing porn addiction.

When I first ran into this article in Teach With Joy by Joy T. Mendoza, I agreed when she mentioned that people become so enslaved to pornography without considering how it can equally damage the essence of creating an intimate relationship between husband and wife. 

Pornography must surely have an extremely elating influence on every person that sees it. Because it's desolating but true to know that when you speak of intimacy  today, it's almost always associated with pornography or in its tangible form-- sex. 

Dr. William Struthers was right. We are all living in a "pornified" society. When you talk to most couples, you would hardly hear one who'll not admit that they have engaged in pre- marital sexual relationship somehow or another. 

It's not like I try to lip serve you with a bickering list of religious dogmas, what-should-bes, and an entire read of bible scriptures from the book of Genesis to Revelations. I'm pretty conscious with how the words of God have started to become like a painful tumor in the ass to most people today.

Porn habitues continue to get so consumed with the pleasurable visuals of sex without having any idea how it affects their brain in the same way that their look is largely affected by what they eat. 

The brain is a powerful organ. But Dr. Struthers explained that it doesn't have the ability to excrete unacceptable data as much as digestive system can expel waste food materials. It only keeps on feeding itself what it perceives is important to keep, and store the not so important details to a distant memory. 

Pornography is unfortunately one of those data. It has an exciting effect. As sexual beings we have the tendencies to constantly get in touch with whatever pleasurable thing we experience.

It's like buying an ice cream in a scoop. You don't really get to remember how the ice cream vendor scooped it into the cone, or what the color of the cone was. You would only remember its taste. 

The brain also has the ability to mimic what it sees. That ability is a blessing and a curse. The curse is when it registers and imitates things that will eventually have a destructive effect. 

If this is how intimacy and sexuality is viewed and practiced today, I wonder how it will be viewed and practiced in the future.

From the Fifty Shades Trilogy to the Perks of Being a Wallflower. Its extremely elating influence leverages movies and makes books the bestselling they can be. Sex sells, a LOT.

When I first read Fifty Shades, I had an instantaneous observation of its deliberate use of the word "sex" while most other books would only describe it indeterminately as "making love".

The Perks on the other hand  tackled molestation like it's a normal thing to do. I don't think these happenings are only brought by a minute of exposure to an erratic visual. It takes constant exposure and an entire society.

These are of course my personal opinions. I do not attempt to confound the persons behind all these books, movies, websites, and advertisements. But I find the crippling effects of pornography deserving of my articulate skepticism.

Sexual intimacy is not alone an event brought by surging hormones. It's also a spiritual event.

There is no such thing as “just looking” at porn. There can be no doubt that it affects us neurologically in long-lasting ways. ~ William Struthers, Ph.D. , The Effects of Porn on the Male Brain

I sincerely pray that God will enlighten everyone with the sanctity of marriage and sexuality. Let spiritual ridicule and sexual misuse be surrendered unto HIM.



What's your view?

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Beyonce and the Bible Speaks of Marriage

There are times when I fond hope of my own wedding ceremony. To for a spell wish for things to turn out right in the future should I decide to settle down is something which I include in my prayers. Yes, definitely!

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            This post has been greatly inspired by an entry written by Dennis Sy, a blogger and moreover a real man who admirably loves God, his wife and children. I was deeply encouraged to relate to others (Read: you who’s reading this right now) what he thought about relationships and marriage in an unexpectedly modern and fun way. Read full of Dennis Sy's article, Apostle Paul and Beyonce's Theology of Marriage, dennissy.com. Follow Dennis Sy on Twitter.

When I first had my own share of experience being into a relationship with someone, I honestly considered a great challenge to prove to myself, my partner, and God that we would remain pure despite being into a “romantic” relationship. And thankfully with the grace of God, we did. It ended in two years too soon but I am more than grateful up to now for not only meeting people but having to remain pure and dignified even if we did not end up together.

Anyway, the greater risk comes when couples (in boyfriend-girlfriend relationships) get to a point of being tempted to get physical. This as far as I’m concerned is one of the highest scaled issues experienced by anyone in a relationship yet outside of marriage.

                       

The Apostle Paul said:

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.- 1Cor. 7:9

I haven’t come across with this scripture before but now. Thanks to Dennis Sy.

Needless to say that there are scores of virginal pair of legs going bad because of what I call “physical temptation”. Roughly put, there are also relationships going sour and pregnant-singles going deranged because of this. You might say I am playing hypocrite and bluff here, pretty near being too conventional. Of course not. Getting this statistics of “broken purity” and “broken relationships” is something which anyone can hardly be happy about.

This is also not being old-fashioned and highly traditional. Let me (also) introduce you to a song by Sister Beyonce when she sung a beautiful hymn “All the Single Ladies” that according to Dennis Sy, sums up what Apostle Paul was trying to say in the scripture. 

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Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it. If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it. Don’t be mad once you see that he want it. If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it.

PUT A RING ON IT!      

                            

To all you single men, show some real MAN-- stop the sex. Put some ring on it!

To all you Single Ladies-- sing:

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All the single ladies. Now put your hands up. Woo oh oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh ooh.

       :D

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A Healthy Amount of...Lust?

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Yeah, let’s talk about it open-mindedly. Do away with your prejudices for a moment. It’s a topic so unusual for me to write about, yet it’s one of the most interesting, right? 

Lust.  It isn’t just a guy problem. It’s a problem of both the macho and the unmanly-- a human problem.

Most people young and old have issues with this. Those who think they don’t may freely stop reading the next lines and click the “X” button on the upper right. This is for all people single, dating, married, or separated who is most probably facing the same habitual sin.

While writing about it is easier said than done, lust has become a confidential sin that lie in wait of people in distinctive yet common ways. I won’t make up for all the right solutions and judgment on this matter. None of us come to anything with conspicuous analysis. Everyone is but civilly passing on premises and speculations according to the decipherability of an idea and some personal influences.

Thrashing out this topic, though would demand more than a few thoughts and deliberation. But touching a fraction of it would, I think do you more justice than acquainting you with litany of estimations. So I promise to sum this up to a few descriptive.

          This post has been inspired by a book that speaks of sexual morality by Joshua Harris, a good Christian Author who “rightly beguiles” you into yielding and seeking for the best author and giver of love, life, and faith. I may not agree in everything that he’s written there but reading his books and understanding his points somehow makes me feel eligible to meditate on moral dedications and be responsible in sharing these ideas without being too anecdotal lest faulty opinions lead me self-righteous.

Here’s a familiar scenario: 

A sexy and attractive lass is walking down the hallway in spaghetti straps and miniskirts. There’s nothing wrong with appreciating the attractiveness of this head turner and that staring at her and trying to imagine a little bit more is very minimal in comparison to actually walking up to intentionally harass her. Or, purposely or accidentally clicking on porn tube instead of youtube to watch few videos is not as grave as engaging into fornication with several sexual compulsives. Do you agree? 

While some people may not have the same opinion, agreeing to this is like tantamount to saying that not giving up 100 % to lust is still acceptable; that there is a precise limit of percentage of it that won’t make that much of damage for so long as you know how to control yourself. 

But how do we know if we’re on the right measure of lust? What are the things that we could consider as justifiable whenever we try to lust? Or if a little amount of it is fair, then why is lust still ever found in the 7 capital sins?