Looking for Mr. Right

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I found myself laughing when I caught sight of articles and entries on google of so many women around the world describing how they would want their Mr. Right to be. Don’t get me wrong by thinking I’m being hypocrite or whatever because to admit it, I too have my own set of standards of my Mr. Right. It’s just that while reading their write-ups, it made me think how many billions of women out there in the world who are looking forward to one day waking up and finding their Mr. Right knocking at their door.

How many of these women (at different stages of life) are still holding to the possibility of meeting that one person who could at least qualify most if not all of what they thought of as their Mr. Right?

I have been so much inspired by the readings I’ve found on that google search and the entry of one of my favorite bloggers, Sean Patrick Si.

Perhaps at one point in our lives when we were teenagers, we have thought of our Mr. Right as someone who fairly looks good, someone who sings us song during the prom night, someone in that blue varsity uniform whom we’ve talked and texted with for hours over the phone and said,” I’ll never try to break your heart”. And maybe when we’ve grown a little bit more and our perspectives have changed, we thought of our Mr. Right as someone who at most finished a degree in college and is responsible at taking care of himself and his career, someone who tries to comfort us whenever we get mad, someone who laughs at our jokes no matter how terrible they are, someone we can share some ideas with slack of whoever’s got the more intellectual opinion, someone who knows how important communication is for a relationship, and etcetera.

Our descriptions of Mr. Right come in varied and great quantities. And while reading this, you might already have been thinking of your own brand of ideals, too.

Who is Mr. Right?

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That kind of man we’ve all been wishing for is neither Mr. Perfect nor Mr. Good Enough. We should try to remember that this person who is right for us may not be someone with all the great shape, abounding intellect, hefty bank account, or even the one with all the good traits we could ever name of an ideal man.

In reality he may also be someone as ordinary as others are; someone who is also wishing for an equally the same Ms. Right underneath same star. Cliché’ how I dropped that line but ladies might need to know that such kind of men likewise feel the need of finding someone who would understand why they need some time alone and would never ask why he needs it, someone who needs to be appreciated more, someone who would like to be treated like a man, or someone who would as well look less good when he wakes up in the morning. The main point is, he’s not all good and he also has some flaws. Having said that, I don’t necessarily mean too that we should also try to lower our standards of our Mr. Right, lower our expectations may be but never at the expense of compromising our beliefs and settling for someone who is a total reverse of what we’re supposed to get. There is, as far as I’m concerned, an amount of difference between Mr. Right and Mr. This-would-already-do.

                        Announcement: I am a dream girl who is looking for an equally opposite imperfect guy who has mastered the art of telling lies and catching me with blind words. If you’re the form of guy who spends more time with your peers and doesn’t care to give me a call or two in a month, you’re exactly my type. Someone who slaps and hits me like a dog is preferable. And if you entertain the idea of having dozens of relationships with other girls, that sure is a big plus. Promise I'll be the one to do everything.  So if you want someone who would die waiting for you to keep coming back whenever you want, go grab and court me NOW!

                       
You sure don’t want that idea quoted above, do you? Bottom line is, never overrate your apprehensions and assumptions of the Right Man as well as never downplay your values and standards too low. Don’t get to suffer just what you have precisely been trying to avoid.

When can we find Mr. Right?  

                       

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There's no definite time. For the records maybe we have already found that Mr. Right and we just don’t care to notice it. Keep in mind that we should never use the idea of looking for Mr. Right in avoiding those who come our way and show us their sincerest affection. The right man is not a defense wall. But if at present you have that man flaunted right before you, then be sure to take care of him pretty well. Or if in case you haven’t come across with that person just yet; so what shall you do?

How to find Mr. Right?

Here’s how: I don’t have with me all the absolute solutions to that, for it may also be true that you have with you a better idea on this matter. But what I’m sure is, in the same manner that we pray for successful exams, stable career jobs, good health, and long life of our dear grands, we should also pray for this area of our life-- the love area and our Mr. Right.

God has been encouraging us to speak our minds to Him about the things that we want and the things that have been bothering us. “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you will find, knock and it will be opened unto you”, says God in Matthew 7:7.

It could also be of help for us to draw a clear-cut of what we really want in a man. Most women just have the idea that they want the right man but would not dare to think what they specifically consider in a right man. Go try to ponder, jot it down if need be or say it aloud to yourself, just so it would really get inside your consciousness.

What you say, you become; the power of our mind to act on what it believes. Above all, surrender everything to God. As in complete surrender. Not the kind of surrender that you give conditions and still would want to be in control of everything. Empty your mind and heart and let God in. Let Him be the one to work on that search for the right man. He knows just exactly the one who’s right for you, you already have prayed for it anyway, haven't you? He knows when everyone and everything is ready.

Looking for Mr. Right? This is where he’s found....in God.

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